A few posts back, Larissa recounted her memories of the wedding day. I’m here to make sure the Groom’s perspective doesn’t get lost! So, after much procrastination and some not-so-subtle nudging from my wife, here are the Groom’s Memories of that great day.
– Waking up to a silent apartment, having some cereal with Mitch, watching ESPN, and talking sports. Mitch had stayed the night so it was great to have someone there to keep the normalcy in place.
– Loading up my car with 1.5 years worth of wedding decoration planning. These boxes and craft supplies had been in our apartment for so long that it felt good to finally put them to use, yet amazing that they fit in my little Camry.
– Rushing. Nothing was at a normal pace as our car pulled away from the venue that evening.
– Meeting the guys for food (groomsmen, photographers, officiant, DJ). I was anything but hungry, but the guys shoveled protein on my plate so I wasn’t a hypoglycemic mess.
– Mad Dash Decorating. After a 45 minute lunch, we all had about an hour to unload all of the decorations and get things underway.
- Paul’s years as a bus boy served him well. He was a freaking speed demon, setting up every table with napkins, straws, menus, etc. Don’t get me wrong, other people helped with that too, but they were reeling in the dust from his Tasmanian pace!
- My Sister: She was designated the manager of the decorations. I downloaded all of what Larissa and I wanted into her brain so when I left, she could dictate where things would go. She had a good excuse not to do any actual lifting (See: Baby Nohi)
- My Mom: Candle setter-upper extraordinaire. After only a little deliberation, we both decided to go AGAINST my specific instructions from Larissa NOT to light the candles before the ceremony, only for the reception. What do you all think? Good, bad?
- Ryan: If anyone ever needs to have a Chinese Lantern set up, you can call Ryan Dixon. His delicate little fingers didn’t tear a single lantern! (golf clap)
- Hank/Mitch/Father-In-Law: I’m sure they did plenty of other stuff, but my memory is of them standing on ladders and reaching to set up the white lights. Great teamwork, guys.
- DJ-o-e: Once again, I know he did a ton to set up as well, but my memory is of him standing behind the computer, reading over our notes with furrowed eye brows, and concentrating on likely the biggest moment of his life 😉 Did you know he spent hours in his hotel room going over things to make sure everything was perfect? It was people doing things like that that made the day so perfect.
- Everyone: No one got annoyed with me as I barked out orders. We had a TON to do in a short time. When the groomsmen and I left, it was only 50% done, and when we showed up… 100% perfection!
– Getting Dressed: Everyone crowded into DJ-o-e’s hotel room to get our suits on. We played music, made inappropriate jokes, and half-practiced our little song to be performed later in the night.
– First Look: Such a great moment. All of those months of keeping me from seeing the dress paid off. I can’t tell you how many times I had to quickly divert my eyes after almost seeing pictures of the dress on her phone or our computer. I don’t think I’m alone when I say she was absolutely stunning.
– Pictures: We decided to do all of our pictures spontaneously as we walked from our hotel to the venue. We probably didn’t give ourselves enough time, but Nathan (photographer) did a great job of adapting on the fly. We had to cram in our last pictures as the Sounders game got out and started to flood the streets with fans (at least they were dressed in our color!)
– Greeting: I didn’t know what to do as we waited for guests to arrive. I didn’t really know what a groom wash supposed to do. So I just stood there and said hi to people as they walked in, haha. This might have been a good thing, since we missed getting around to everyone during the reception. Sad face.
– Ceremony: Nothing. I remember nothing. Just kidding. It was the most important 40 minutes of my life. ‘Sealing in’ the girl of my dreams for the rest of my life. No big deal. I remember our supposed roles being switched. She was supposed to be the emotional one while I was supposed to be calm/collected guy who’s always in front of groups of people. I also will never forget Evan’s great Word’s of Wisdom, how special it felt to have that many people travel so far to see us, and feeling so proud to have the 4 men beside me that I did. I could never forget any of that.
– Upstairs, while everyone was grabbing drinks and a seat, we were signing documents, toasting Champaign together, with the closest people in our lives. It was an intimate moment and great to have those few minutes together. Just prior to that, we were allowed to sit alone and take it in. We could hear the plates clattering and people talking below us.
– I remember the twirl Jessi and Hank practiced that they executed during the introductions.
– I remember DJ-O-E hitting all of his marks. All of those little songs, crossfades, and timelines we made played perfectly!
– Cake Cutting: I knew I was going to smash it in Larissa’s face. What I didn’t know was that I’d accidentally stick my pinky finger up her nostril. How romantic.
– The Rap: Having practiced the lyrics on my car rides home from work the week before, I only felt half confident. There were a few words I had to mumble because I couldn’t remember them, but it was a blast to perform. And even greater was the look of surprise on Larissa’s face. I promised her no more secrets after smuggling the engagement ring into our apartment. This rap was the last… I swear!
– Dancing: We had the playlist slated so that some of our elders in the crowd would enjoy the songs early, and some of our younger friends would enjoy the ones later. Well, our elders held their own way into the young/hip/wid-it crowd!
– The send-off: While it was great having everyone send us off, I remember about 20 different things being yelled at us and given to us, and a few questions. This all happened in about 15 seconds!
– Driving home, hearing the silence, feeling the weight being lifted and the reality setting in. We just held hands the entire way and actually didn’t say much. But the day that was 1.5 years in the planning was all behind us.
But so much more in front of us!